We learn early the rules of decorum. We learn to show respect for those in charge. We learn to stand in line for recess. We learn to memorize stock answers to stock questions. We learn not to question the authority of those set above us. We learn not to use bad language or to make disrespectful jokes. See if you can find the Happy Tutor in this picture. (Hint: He is not the one doing the spanking. But you can see why he turned out the way he did. Abused children become abusers in their turn.) I am reminded of this image when I read the giving blogs and public press on philanthropy. The writers are so well socialized. It almost seems that they are scared of being beaten, or maybe they have been beaten down so much that truckling by now is second nature. I know it is for me. Better to go along. Better safe than sorry.